I enjoy reading books that could be classified as self help. One in particular that I love is “The Success Principles” by Jack Canfield. I have been reflecting on the negative self talk/inner critic chapters for the past few days.
We talk to ourselves a lot throughout the day, and most of the time it is in a negative way. “You cant run 14 miles” “You arent skinny enough” “You will never succeed at <fill in the blank>.” If we talk to ourselves so often and so much, then we should make it positive. Turn our inner critic into an inner coach.
1. Become aware of the negative thoughts
2. Challenge them.
3. Replace them with more positive affirming thoughts.
You are in charge of whether or not you listen to or agree with any thought that crosses your mind. Just because you think it or hear it doesn’t mean it is true. Ask yourself — “Is this thought helping me or hurting me? Is it motivating me to action, or blocking me with fear and self-doubt?”
Anything that doesn’t serve you well and help you move forward to become a more successful person (however you define success) is a waste of your mental energy.
I think stomping out negative self-talk will take a lot of practice, but Im optimistic that habits can be changed — especially when they are for the better!
How do you deal with negative self-talk? I welcome any and all ideas … as I think this may be difficult to master. 🙂